Still very active on social media, entrepreneur and public figure François Lambert recently shared an article on his Facebook page, beside which he recounts his own experience related to the situation.
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Indeed, he explains that he has “divorced” Marilyn a few years back… but rest assured: the couple is still very much in love! This isn’t a breakup, but rather a “divorce” of a different kind: a joint decision about a habit most couples adopt, namely sleeping in the same bed… or choosing not to.
The businessman explains the reasons why he and his partner chose to sleep in separate bedrooms, and revisits the reasoning behind this decision.
His Explanations
“Are you separated? It’s a question that comes up quite a bit. Marilyn and I separated a few years ago. Separated, yes. But not in the sense people usually imagine. This morning, while reading my friend Maude Goyer’s article in La Presse, I saw myself in it. Because what she describes is exactly what we’re living. When the topic came up between Marilyn and me, it was she who brought it up. The discussion was simple. Honest. And surprisingly obvious. Of course, at first, I had a few questions. Does she still love me? Does this mean we’ll drift apart? Nothing dramatic. But since it isn’t the norm, and the topic is still very taboo, those questions are normal. A few years later, one thing is clear: we wouldn’t go back. I stay up late. I wake up early. I love dozing off to videos of lions chasing gazelles or elephants crossing Africa to reach a water source that the matriarch hasn’t forgotten in 25 years… laptop resting on my belly. Marilyn, she goes to bed early. She wakes up several times a night. No cell phone in the bedroom. A book. Peace and quiet. Why force something that serves no purpose when, anyway, we’re sleeping? This model unsettles. It surprises. It stirs conversation. When we talk about it, many find it strange. Rest assured… a few years ago, I too found these people odd. And yet. Sometimes, loving someone isn’t about doing what everyone else does. It’s about finding what really works,” he testifies.
A Very Popular Decision?
In the comments, several readers chimed in, saying they live a reality similar to François and his partner. Many shared their own experiences, explaining that sleeping apart is often very positive:
“I couldn’t agree more. Being in a relationship means showing respect for the other person. Sleep deprivation affects mood, health, and well-being. Everyone deserves quality sleep, and honoring that need is a strong sign of love and respect for both your partner and yourself.”
“In a relationship, the best quality is that both people should understand each other! And beyond the person, there is respect. And above all, being able to LAUGH. In any case, for us it works very well….”
“Totally agree with you! It’s so much better when everyone sleeps in their own bed and room. We can live by our own habits, which are different, and if it helps us wake up in a good mood, then it’s really worth it. To love someone also means to respect them. Norms don’t interest me: I do what works for me and what works for our relationship.”
And you, on your end, have you embraced this lifestyle, or is it simply too difficult to consider for your relationship?
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